What do Frugal People Spend Their Money on??

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I pride myself on being relatively good with money. It’s easier for me to save than to spend. When I see something that I like I often find myself asking “will this go on sale in a few weeks and make me angry?!”  Haha. Most of the time I let it ride. Like this bag at Anthropologie that I’m currently stalking. It will go on sale, and it will be mine! 

 

Being a frugal gal doesn’t mean I don’t spend though. Obviously, I have champagne taste, and I’m not interested in the beer budget category if it’s not completely necessary but, I’ve come to learn that frugal people will go the extra mile when it comes to certain things... so I figured I’d share mine to see how I line up with the rest of you frugalistas! 

 

1. Gifts

I NEVER budget shop for gifts, unless I’ve agreed to do a budget with the party I’m exchanging with. I go with my heart on gift giving. Sometimes gifts are expensive and otherwise not at all! If I feel the person will love it, I get it. Simple. 

 

2. Skincare

I think budget skincare is bad juju. I have sensitive skin and I do whatever it takes to keep it happy. As I get older, that seems to be a hell of a lot more haha! All these moisturizers and eye creams and SPF 50 everything...it’s a wonder I don’t drown in skincare! Under this umbrella I’m also going to place Makeup. Quality make up looks better and lasts longer AND...doesn’t break me out. I’ll always pay more for that peace of mind!  

 

3. Housekeeping

I have a husky. Enough said 😂.  But honestly I love a clean house. I wasn’t blessed with domestic ability.  I can style, design and arrange, but when it comes to cleaning I am helpless! I like to entertain so, it’s imperative to have a housekeeper so that people aren’t subject to my dogs hair every time they come over. Or dust everywhere for that matter.  

 

4. Recently - Cars

I used to be so frugal about cars. I always thought they didn’t matter. Until I started driving a lot, and my family became 2 humans and 3 dogs. It’s not possible to tote all of that around and luggage in a Mustang. Sorry.  So when I bought my Mercedes SUV I told them everything I wanted in a car, including the color, and they delivered. I also added the package for free car cleanings because...again with the dog. His hair is a curse. I want my car to always feel brand new! So...it was money well spent. Happy family!  

5. Home

Our home in Dallas is a dream house. We again, decided everything we wanted and set out to find it. Hoping to do the same thing here in GA, our home here is very much temporary as I had about 10 seconds to get here from across the country to film WAGS.  (Seriously, I had two weeks to find, move into and set up a place and PART of those two weeks I was in ENGLAND! 🤦🏽‍♀️) It’s not my style, but it works for filming purposes.  But I of course miss our Dallas home SO much! Fingers crossed we can find another perfect place in ATL!  

Now I flip this over to you guys! What do you spend your money on? What will you pay whatever it takes to make sure it’s right? Leave it in the comments!  

The Dots

We talk a lot about current fashion trends but we don't talk much about my in-ring fashion and what it all means. When I first started wrestling my name was "Eden". I'm traditionally an over prepared person, so before I had my first match I had plenty of gear made and ready to go in the case I got called to wrestle on the fly. Back then, Dusty was one of the head trainers at FCW in Tampa. The creative direction for "Eden" was significantly similar to the story of Eve in the Garden of Eden. A temptress who listened to the serpent, eating and sharing the forbidden fruits with Adam, bringing paradise to an end. I'm a huge fan of the Biblical story, and I wanted snakes on my gear to represent that.  And that's the story! I continue to wear the gear because it was a cool idea, it's beautifully made, and it feels like me. No slight to any other companies I've worked for in past, just creativity that is part of the path to me continuing on this path in wrestling. Sorry, there isn't "juicy dirt". You can find plenty of that elsewhere! 

 

Now recently, I decided to mix my snakes with Dusty Rhodes' signature black and yellow polka dots. I was worried about doing this. Others have done tributes to my father in law and as well intended as they may have seemed, it's never really been well received, except when Stardust did at Wrestlemania. However, it was on my heart to do this for some time, and bearing the Rhodes name I figured I would take my chance and hope that it meant something. I knew it meant a lot to my husband and myself, that was going to have to be enough. 

 

I have never ever recieved so much positive energy towards anything I've ever worn in my entire life. Fashion is a passion of mine, for sure.  But the dots make people feel good. They make people remember. They start conversations and encourage fans to tell me their favorite Dusty stories and moments. It's really surreal and it helps people come together and enjoy themselves that much more. That said, don't worry, the dots aren't going away. I will definitely bring them back from time to time to help people feel good and to remember. Also, I feel like I should state this because, well hell, somebody's got to. Just because I'm black, doesn't make me in polka dots a Sapphire reference.  She was amazing and I enjoyed her and Dusty immensely. But Cody and I are never trying to be this. Cody is Dusty's son and I never had the pleasure of meeting sweet Sapphire. I would consider it disrespectful to her family to try and "represent" her.  That's their right and their lineage, certainly not mine. 

 

Side note, last night I had the pleasure of meeting Tully Blanchard for the first time. I was wearing my dots and I got the chance to tell him how awesome the roll of quarters match was with him and Dusty, as I had literally watched it just the night before. That had little to do with fashion, it was just a very cool moment.  

 

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Adults Do Disney

My husband and I have been talking about taking a Disney (World) only trip for over a year now. As Universal people, this would mean visiting only Disney parks and attractions, staying at a Disney Resort and not cheating our way over to the comforts of Universal at all. Finally the schedule opened up for both of us at the same time. I booked us plane tickets and we were on our way. 

Animal Kingdom Lodge was our home of choice throughout the visit because of my undying love of animals and my fondness for giraffes...which I saw outside of my window EVERY single day. I even named one Jeffrey, or maybe it's spelled Geoffrey...I don't know! My biggest concern with staying at a Disney hotel was that it wouldn't be adult friendly. Boy was I wrong! Animal Kingdom Lodge is very adult friendly, from its upscale dining options like "Jiko" to its lobby bar serving all sorts of great libations until midnight. The gift shop was also well equipped with adult bevies and cigars! They know what we adult types like there. :) I was also pleased to learn that the gym was open 24/7 (we still have to work out on vacation 😣) so having that access at all times was so important to us. The pool having a great bar was another plus...just stay at least 6 feet back from the water while indulging to keep the lifeguards happy! 

With the help of some great friends on the staff we were able to enjoy Club Level access which allowed us to get drinks anytime we wanted just by stopping by with our magic bands...and the magic bands alone might just be the most exciting things about Disney. They work at all of the parks, hotels and attractions. Leave your wallets at home! You can charge EVERYTHING to your magic band, you can load your tickets and fast passes on them and you can even open your room door with them. It's such a simple and streamlined system. Our magic bands never failed us. Not even once!  

My favorite park of course was Hollywood Studios, home to one of my favorite rides, the Tower of Terror (see my Twitter for our unique ride experience, which was also purchased with, you guessed it, my magic band).  I like to ride in the front on coasters, so if you followed by IG story that day you saw that I made an awesome friend on Rockin' Roller Coaster rand scored fast passes for the entire day INCLUDING THE NEW PANDORA RIDES! I was like a kid in the candy store being able to ride all of the rides I wanted to without some of those lengthy waits! Super fortunate and grateful for that! 

So yes, absolutely, we hopped over to Animal Kingdom next and got right on Flight of Passage which is SO awesome. It's a unique experience that's difficult to explain. Think Star Tours mixed with Soarin' but uniquely different in its own way.  

My Magic Kingdom highlights were the Seven Dwarfs Mine Train, a really fun little coaster and of course my dining experience at Be Our Guest Restaurant. First of all, they were on time with reservations which is a HUGE plus because of how darn busy that place is. It's the only place in the park (currently) to score alcohol and it did not disappoint with its extensive beer and wine list. AND the Beast was awesome. He's larger than life, charismatic and an all around great host. He is so formal that you kind of feel bad to have shown up to see him so casually dressed! Next time I'm changing before dinner, ha! And OH MY GOSH...the Grey Stuff...it truly is delicious! Leave room for dessert,  it's a must! 

Epcot is always a fave of mine. Cody and I always attempt to "Drink Around the World" and guys, I never make it. I don't think it's possible. But it's always definitely fun to try! The restaurant in Morrocco is delicious. Give that a try if you can! The lamb sliders were legit! 

My last stop on the Adult trip was Disney Springs. An absolute gem. Free parking. Luxurious shopping and fine dining. Live music everywhere and great bars. We stowed away at the Hangar Bar and did the most haha. Great drinks, fun atmosphere. Not much more you can ask for.  

I was very pleased with the kindness levels of staff at Disney. Everyone is very accommodating, and I know not everyone is in the public eye that reads my blog, but those that are really understand and appreciate how great it is to be treated nicely when someone recognizes you. Not once were we made a spectacle of, or made to feel uncomfortable being approached. We were treated professionally and like friends, which was very cool.  

Needless to say we will be back for another Adult All Disney Trip soon, and I can wait to see what other unique experiences come our way in the future. Toy Story Land and Galaxy's Edge are top on my list to try the second they are up and running.  

 

 

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Champion For All

My church has been talking about heroes for the past few weeks. What heroes often look like.  Underdogs. Superheroes etc. But today I'm going to talk about the sports hero. The common man, for those who understand.  

Last night I watched in the upper balcony as my husband realized his childhood dream and beat the odds by becoming a World Heavyweight Champion. Something that's been 11 years in the making, it's been a very hard road to get there. He's heard every excuse in the book as to why he wasn't "Champion material" from his build, to the astounding measure of his father's shadow. He persevered and he succeeded and I'm happy as a clam for him. So happy that I fell down a set of stairs racing to get to him last night. My ankle...well, let's not talk about it. He's the one with stitches in his lip. I'll stay on track. 

Champions and heroes go hand in hand to me. The champion sets the tone for whatever sport he is successful in. In wrestling, new champions set the tone for the locker room. Whenever a title changes in this business, the peers gather to offer their respect and hear the Champion speak to them for the first time. I've been in wrestling for 5 years now. I have heard many speeches from champions in this time period. My husband's surprised me and inspired me to write this, here's how. When he got to the end of the speech he said "I've sat through many promo classes which taught me that you have to finish (these speeches) strong. But I want to finish by saying that tonight is my wife's birthday. She chose to be here, ROH brought her here and I'm thankful. So I want everyone to join me in singing her "happy birthday".  Everyone did.  

It's not about the song. It's about the champion. Someone who in his long awaited moment of glory, with the lights down and no cameras in sight, just decided to uplift his wife. How uncharacteristic. How uncharacteristic these days for a man to make his win about his wife. But shouldn't that be a characteristic we accept...and celebrate? 

It has become too common place that our heroes, our children's heroes have these dark sides. They have families but don't behave as family men. They allow power to supersede the example. They fall short everywhere except in the sport at which they excel and we accept that. Our sons accept that. Our daughters accept that. My husband gives us reason not to accept that, but to expect and demand more. He is not a perfect man, but he's a man that chooses to share in his successes, not keep them all for himself. He's a man that respects women, from his wife to his mother, to his peers, coworkers and fans. He's a man who puts his morals and marriage first. A man who doesn't allow circumstances to change who he is at the core. My husband knows that setting a good example is hard, but he still wholeheartedly tries because he is a good person. He's a man who shed tears last night winning his first championship, just like one of the greatest heroes of all time, Jesus. That man openly wept, a thing we tell our sons it's not okay to do anymore, stripping them of their own emotions. And we wonder why men become too hardened and cold against us women, well maybe we should pay attention as well.

That is a champion. That is a hero. That is what I want my son or daughter to look to. Not a philanderer. Not a womanizer. Not an alcohol or substance abuser and certainly not a megalomaniac or sociopath. A man who works hard and loves hard. Like the man who raised me up in my childhood home. It's also great to see my husband standing alongside of moral men, I'll single out the Young Bucks here because they are Bullet Club (4444 life) but there are so many great moral worthy men in wrestling and sports in general. In entertainment...the Colin Donnells. The Stephen Amells.  Super heroes and real life heroes.  These men are exemplary. Hard workers. Trail Blazers. Husbands. Fathers. Role models. Celebrate them! 

Thank you to everyone who has encouraged my husband along the way to be such a great human being and a hard worker. Isn't it great to have moments in this world where good things happen and we lift each other up and enjoy the moments? I sure think so. This is a great time for our little family unit. We are greatful and so happy. Expect a lot from heroes and champions. Make them accountable for the positions that they hold. God bless the American Nightmare, by way of the American Dream.  

 

 

She looks right out of her eyes

So the title of this blog is courtesy of my friend Kaylin Jurrjens mother. One day we were hanging together, we took a selfie and she sent it to her mom (who I've never met). Her mom said "Brandi looks right out of her eyes". Which I had NEVER heard before in my life. But I instantly wanted to know what that meant. Most of the time people comment on the appearance of my eyes. Their unique color.  Or they ask if I wear contacts (which I HATE! Is it that unbelievable that someone got something of beauty from God these days???). But this comment seemed to speak of my soul by way of my eyes, so I loved it.  

When someone says someone "looks right out of their eyes" it means they feel a good presence from them. It think it's cool that a picture can say so much, and you know moms, they are rarely wrong about these sort of things :)

In general, she's right. I tend to be the calming presence for many during their life storms. It's something I take pride in. I tend to be less of a stormy person myself. But now I'm in a bit of a stormy season myself. You know those times in life where it seems nothing will go right? Those times where you have an ugly breakout and you feel SO self conscious about it but you go hang out with family anway and yep, leave it to your mother in law to make some kind of public spectacle of it! Those times when you're on the cusp of something great but people who harbor bitterness for some reason or another keep setting out to make your achievements difficult? These are the times I'll admit, I have trouble getting out of bed. 

So, how do you get out of bed on a flurry of rainy days? Here's some tips I'm using right now to make sure I make life happen, even on the cloudiest of days.  

1.) Focus on what's going well and why it's going well. Right now I'm working on EXACTLY what I wanted to be. And I landed this gig less than a year after leaving my old "good" gig and ITS SOOOO MUCH BETTER!!!! That's a heck of an accomplishment right? That's something worth leaping out of bed for every morning and yelling HALLELUJAH! I'm sure there's a motivator in your life right now. Let that force drive you onward and upward! 

2) Let love win. My husband tells me how much he loves me every single morning without fail. It's so great to be loved especially when you need a little extra. Accept that love.  Be it from your family, your friends, your pets, God. Allow yourself to feel it and be showered in it.  

3) Relax. Take time to relax if you need it. I need it every week. Whether it's a light work out, or a trip to the day spa, some retail therapy or going to see a great flick. Whatever relaxation means to you...find it and do it. Often times we feel ourselves pulled in 100 different directions. Sometimes you have to just take time out for #1 (that'd be you my friend). Carve out that time every week and don't allow any noise in. You'll find you are much more fun for others to be around when you've taken care of yourself a little bit.  

What are some things that motivate you on rougher days? I want to hear them!! Drop a comment below! (Oh and the first pic is the picture we sent Kaylin's mom :)  

 

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Not Pregnant

Every time I post something on Instagram or Twitter about having a surprise or something good happening in my life or even just being happy in general, about 100 people tweet me "congratulations you must be pregnant". Ok, no? I'm not pregnant and secondly, ew? That's a pretty personal conclusion to make. Why do people jump to that conclusion SO quickly?   If it were the 50s, I'd understand. However, it's 2016! Having a baby isn't the biggest accomplishment a woman can make and, surprisingly (sense my sarcasm please) we aren't all chomping at the bit to grow a human in our bellies the second we get married! I've only been married 2 1/2 years. I am NOT on the baby train. 

My husband and I both have intense careers. We travel 4 or 5 days a week every single week. I don't see that changing anytime soon. It'd be a bad choice for me, career-wise, to decide to have a baby right now. I have a number of accomplishments still on my list before even considering that path. 

Thankfully, we know more medically now than we did in the past and there is no rush to have kids anymore. My clock is not ticking. Hell, my grandmother had my mom when she was 40. I feel completely fine about focusing on me right now instead of worrying about adding to our family. It's not something I'm interested in or ready for. 

When did the notion come about that you have to have kids? For the longest time, I didn't want kids at all. I still don't want kids currently. When I'm done doing what I want to do, I'd like to have one KID.  Not multiple. If I have twins well then, the jokes on me ha. But Baby Rhodes, ain't gonna be that exciting y'all. It's probably going to be a figure skater if it's a girl. Doubt you're into that! Plus, he or she won't be on Instagram or Twitter. Not until they are old enough to understand what in the world it even is and hopefully by that time, they won't be into it. Again, not that exciting. 

A child is a huge responsibility. I am "Worlds Greatest Auntie" to my niece, and very grateful to be! In my college days, I was a nanny for 3 kids under the age of 5 on my days off classes. I have gotten a taste of what it's like. They never stop. Much as I adored those kids I was exhausted at the end of each day, and happy when mom and dad came back for them! You can't give kids back once you have them. You can't pawn them off on other people all of the time, that's not fair to them. You have to be ready for the commitment and I certainly am not. I still enjoy going to theme parks on a whim, random tropical vacations, the occasional Vegas jaunt. I still enjoy not having to think about logistics and just doing what I please. I'm still a kid in many ways, and no one can make me really grow up (except a kid, so not yet).

All of this to say currently, kids are OFF THE LIST.  If it seems like I'm offended by people wanting me to have a baby, I'm not. At the end of the day people can have all of these grandiose ideas, but I don't have to listen to them. Which has basically been my choice about just about everything in life and I just keep on climbing. Well now at least you know how I feel about the issue. When the time is right it's my first priority. But my priority, not anyone else's. So try not to be too concerned about my uterus. It's happy as can be right now. Every time I post something vague (it's what we do sometimes...a little mystery is cool!) know that pregnancy probably isn't the go to.

My Favorite 2015 Moments 

2015 was a year of highs and lows for me. The emotional roller coaster inspired me to begin writing this blog in the first place.  As we shift into another year I'm reflecting on all that happened this year past. Hope you enjoy looking back with me on some of my favorite moments. Hall of Fame 2015. I walked the red carpet with my father-in-law Dusty Rhodes. It was the first and last time I got to do this with him. It was an off year because Cody was not attending for the first time. Instead of having me do interviews, Michael Cole opted for me to be a guest with Dusty. I am very grateful for that. We had a fun night. People don't know this but Dusty did not feel well that day. I had to push him to do this interview with Maria and Michael. I knew he was mad at me but I made him do it. My mind was telling me that if I didn't get him up there I'd regret it. My intuition was right. Because it's a great moment in history. The last time the world saw Dusty be Dusty. It was the last time I got to complain with him about inductees talking for too long and the bus ride being a pain in the butt. I remember it all so fondly. I did not know at the time that Dusty was leaving us soon. Had I known, I'd have done everything just the same. It was a perfect night. This night is my second to last memory of Dusty. He and I know my very last. Again, I didn't understand that one at the time, but when he passed I knew what it all meant.  So now that I'm crying and the woman sitting next to me on the plane is giving me sympathetic looks, I must move on. 

  

We bought the Texas Rhodes House in May of 2015 and I am just elated with it. I've told the story a million times. 12 rentals until I found my true home with my true love. This gypsy wanders no more. This house represents so much for us. The first major fruits of our labor. Something to show for with all of the travel and the hard work. Something concrete. We put down roots for the first time here. Two kids who vowed to be wanderers for life found each other and changed their plans. This is one of the many steps we have taken towards our commitment to being an awesome little family. It's also a big deal that Pomeranian Colby-Jack made it to his forever home. He's a little old man and he has lived a long life with me. He deserved to finally settle into a home as well. In 2016 we will continue with plenty of more I am sure.        

My first trip to Asia took place this year. I did not want to go. Dusty passed 2 weeks before. Going meant leaving my family behind to grieve, and leaving my husband all alone. I hated myself and I hated the people who put me on it and didn't offer to take me off. But in the long run...it was the most refreshing tour. I was shown love and respect here. The fans were so amazing I couldn't believe it. At a time when I needed peace and understanding the WWE Universe of Asia provided that and I was so grateful. I cannot wait to return here again. 

      

Meeting Elijah (Drax Shadow) was a huge surprise. It happened at a time when my husband certainly wasn't himself. This witty, inspiring child and his family were a huge help in turning things around for us. Elijah was so cool and fun to be around. His contract signing on RAW was so much fun and he did such a great job delivering his lines. He allowed my husband to have fun at work again and be himself. It was such a great moment. We have become friends since, and I enjoy finding out about Elijah's progress and victories. He's a great kid with a great family behind him. 

  

Our 2 year anniversary was a superb night. We found out there was an amazing steakhouse in our area and they treated us like a Queen and King that night. We had a private table to enjoy our dinner peacefully outdoors with candles and the whole bit. We were able to slow dance together on the outdoor patio alone and retrace the steps of our wedding dance. Its a memory I will never forget. It's so awesome to be so in love, and such a great blessing to have each other through thick and thin. I adore my husband. He's one of the great ones. That makes me one of the lucky ones, indeed. 

     This year was Halloween Horror Night's 25 year anniversary. We are HHN fanatics. Have been ever since one of our first dates their. I say we fell in love there but for me, I was honestly in love immediately :) this year was the best year I've attended, and that's saying a lot. Every year that I have been has been excellent and a ton of fun but this one was surely special. Getting to stay in the Presidential suite in our favorite hotel. Getting to see Jack the clown perform live and getting toured around by the guy who makes it all happen every year. It was pretty damn awesome! Looking forward to seeing what HHN brings us in 2016! And how can you not love this art render of Jack, Stardust and I?

                

Thanksgiving was the first time we housed both of our families at once. The Texas Rhodes House is all decorated and settled into and it was just lovely to have everyone together at the same time. I enjoyed putting all of my holiday decorations together and just having that time off to spend with family. I am hoping we can host Thanksgivings for many years to come in this house. Hopefully next year the theater room will be complete and we can have one heck of a movie night with the whole fam! 

      First Christmas in the new house was excellent. We found a great place to get a Christmas Tree which I know we will use for years to come. We were able to make memories and keep up our tradition of our crazy Christmas Eve shopping game, church and dinner out. We are really enjoying where we live and all it has to offer. I enjoyed especially having a super warm Christmas! Cody wanted snow...I feel there is still PLENTY of time for all of that. After all, I am not a snow child. A relaxing Christmas at home with our dog children, however, was exactly what the doctor ordered!

      Star Wars was epically awesome. Arguably the best movie I have EVER seen. I fancy myself a huge movie buff and my top list is very good. Star Wars probably takes the cake, because it had so much to live up to and it was able to deliver. Old characters, new characters, nostalgia and things to look forward to. It was simply a bad ass movie. When you work so hard and so much, a movie like this is like a great escape. I love letting myself get lost in a great story. I saw this movie twice already. I never see anything twice in theaters. This movie was a winner and deserves every dollar earned and every accolade given. If you haven't seen it yet...GO SEE IT!

   Last but not least Eden's Style officially launched at the end of 2015. This is my labor of love. I worked for months and months to make this happen and I am very proud of it and its success so far. So many program ideas get turned down after a lot of hard work and pitching. Mine was fortunate to survive the process! Thankful to all of you for tuning in week after week and allowing it to be a success. I enjoy hearing your feedback and I promise there are exciting things coming for Eden's Style and Eden Stiles in 2016. Thank you for all of your love and support. It truly means the world to me! 

   As we move into 2016, I encourage you all to do so with open eyes, hearts and minds. Go after those dreams and attack those goals. Let's crush it together. I dream huge and it has gotten me this far. It will take me wherever I'm going with a grateful heart and spirit. Here's to a New Year guys! 🍾🍾🍾