Siblings. You grow up together, and then once you grow up things tend to change. You go forward and start living separate lives, and having your own families. In many cases, some move away. This is the case in my family. I grew up in Michigan, went to college there, and then I quickly realized that I needed to leave Michigan in order to try and see my career goals come to fruition. Initially when you move everyone seems excited and happy for you. Once you start finding your own way and seeing success at what you want to do...everyone's on board. But after you've been gone for some time, after life starts to happen. People start having kids, parents start getting older, this thing starts to happen.
So...when are you coming back.
I hate that question. I hate it because the people asking it already know the answer and it often times starts arguments. But the answer is...I'm not coming back. I can't. I am happy elsewhere. Do I love my family? Absolutely. Do I miss them everyday? Of course. Do I wish they would move closer to me? Sure. But I'm not a kid anymore. I have my own family now. Although, we don't have any kids yet, we still run a pretty solid and important ship.
My husband and I are pretty similar in that we flew the nest pretty early in life. He spent time in LA before reporting to OVW in Louiseville for WWE Developmental. I moved to Miami right after college and lived there some time before moving to Tampa for FCW. So, we have both been away from family, and self sufficient for quite some time. For myself, I don't anticipate that ever changing. I think that I've grown accustomed to doing everything myself, it's just easier that way. It's been my life for over 12 years now.
People often ask if we want to be near family if/when we have kids. Honestly, no. I'd rather just do it myself and hire help if I need it. Family time should be a treat...not 24/7. At least that's how it was for me growing up. Grandma and gramps were fun to visit, and it was awesome when they would come to town. My grandmother lived on her own in St Louis until she was about 80. It was no big deal!
When it comes to my parents growing older, I consider them a responsibility of mine, and will be there to take care of them as needed. I work so much, and so hard because I want to be able to be everyone's rock. I miss holidays and special events because in 20 years I won't have to miss a thing. And hopefully when people need my help, I'll be able to lend a hand. My preparation, hard work and savings will have paid off immensely, and everyone will be grateful then, though it may not be what they think I should be doing now. That's ok. I run my life. Opinions are cool but, I know what I'm doing.
My grandmother came to us when she got older. I can see my parents doing the same. Our neck of the world is milder temperatured and they enjoy it. Why not? There's a reason my husband and I bought such a big place. It won't always be just two of us. We want to be available to others if they need us.
Who says you can't go home? I do. I say I can't go home. I did everything I could to make my way out of Michigan. I can't thrive there. I don't like living there. I lack inspiration there. I need my freedom. I need to create, live and be out west. I need to look back on the past, not return to it. I need to keep evolving. I need to inspire others. I need to create my own nest and be Brandi Runnels. Brandi Reed was cool, but she's left the building. Brandi Runnels is just getting started. Brandi Rhodes puts the boots to everyone's asses when the time is right, if you've ever seen her you know she's one b*tch you don't want to tango with 😋. (Personally I'm a huge fan of Rhodes. I have more personas than Janet Jackson and Beyoncé).
My family will always have the best of me, whether I'm near, far or somewhere in between. I cannot leave behind my dreams to stay home. That would not be fulfilling my family's legacy. That would be an excuse to give up on my dreams, and blame other people for not succeeding. If I don't get where I want to be, it had better be my own fault. I don't fail though, never long term anyway. Everything will be just fine.